Reality Is - What's Your Reality?
 
 These word said in the right context can be the most loving words you will ever say. You can not MAKE me happy. Happiness is not something anyone can give. Happiness is a choice. Yup a choice. The truth is anyone can try as hard as they can but never come close to giving or bringing the happiness you are looking for. It is a state, a state of mind, a state of being.

So, is it fair to expect your partner to be your only source of happiness in your relationship. The truth is they can only take part in the happiness you allow yourself to receive. If you are with a person because they make you happy – if they are the only source of happiness you're able to tap into, you have set yourself up for disappointment. Even if you believe you are destined to be with this person for the rest of your life, the slightest change can disrupt your happiness. If you are not the type of person who can be happy just being you and you rely on others the bring you joy, life is probably not has full as it can be for you.

Happy couples are happy people when they are with their partner and when they are alone. They are content and it is not based on the relationship they are in. Their relationship is only a part of their happiness. These are also the same people who are able to move on when a relationship ends. They recognize that what they had was only one page or chapter in the story that is their life. The grieving period is much shorter for them. They share their happiness and are happy to be a part of the happiness their partner has to share.

So ask yourself are you working on making yourself happy, just has happy as you would like your partner to be? Would you be able to enjoy spending the day alone? Must you do everything thing together? If you are unable to spend the day or do something with your partner, would that ruin your the whole day for you?

The answer to these question will help determine just how happy you an be.